Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Patriarchal Legacy

Even as I sit to write, it's difficult for me to believe it's true:
On January 5th, 2013, 
my grandfather Richard Kooistra left the arms of those who love him here, and went to be with the God he built his life on.

Our patriarch,
he was a man who exuded peaceful depth
without giving up on ridiculous fun.

My favorite memory occurred one summer when we were visiting him and my grandmother in Wisconsin.  He was wearing a pair of shorts that--for whatever reason--I decided to tease him about, saying that they looked funny.  He pouted about it, in his typical goofy way, and then, the next thing I knew, he'd gotten a scissors and [you should pause to prepare yourself for this], cut them up. It's my favorite memory for the sheer silliness of it.  But, as I've thought more about it since it was read at his funeral, I've realized how fully it exemplified his shepherding heart:

Making sure that his 8 year old granddaughter knew she had a voice that someone cared enough to listen to,
there was also a gentle lesson:
Your words have power, so be thoughtful in what you say.

This man,
loving husband to 'Fonda' [will I ever forget the way he'd walk through a house yelling 'Fahn-da!' with so much love and respect in his joyful need of her?],
loving father to my father,
and to the rest of the children who came as the years went by;

this man led his family of 8 from a farm in Iowa
to as far away as one could get, in order to pastor
an African American church-plant in inner city Paterson, NJ.
In his courage and obedience, he taught them what it looks like to believe that God is worthy, and that God is faithful.
And he passed it onto his slew of grandchildren, who from the earliest age knew that faith was the legacy they were born to.
Somewhere around the time this photo was taken, my grandfather was tucking me into bed one night, listening to me say my prayers.  In my childish praying, I said something flippantly; I do not remember what, and I do not remember exactly what he said in response.  What I remember is that he was personally hurt at my disregard of the Person of God.  And what I took away and kept in the memory I still have of his face in that moment is that he was a man who knew God to be someOne real, someOne he was deeply connected to.  

What I remember is that when face to face with my grandfather, there was no disregarding the fullness of what it means to walk with God.

And so,
the memories that this man left us are more than just a good time,
though he was that.

It's more than the charm he displayed,
 given any opportunity.

It's more than the youthfulness with which he approached life,
though he kept it all the way until the final months of his illness.
 It's more than the games we played,
and the conversations we had.

It's more, because this is the man who taught us how to Live.
For this we mourn our loss,
but also for this, we rejoice in his Gain.

Because, if he were here right now, he would tell you the Truth:
'For to me, to live is Christ, and to die is indeed gain.'

Good-bye Grandpa, may the name of the Lord be praised.

Psalm 121
I lift up my eyes to the hills--where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip--he who watches over you will not slumber; indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. The LORD watches over you--the LORD is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night. The LORD will keep you from all harm--he will watch over your life; the LORD will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Say Hello New Year

As 2012 called itself over and 2013 made its presence known,
 I was snuggled deep inside this cabin, warm and happy.
Gathered with good friends,
there was much to love, after all.
 There was time to read,
 to talk,
 to rest,
 to play,
 to enjoy each other's company,
 to do our own thing,
all together.

There was time to cook,
a very large amount 
of various good foods,
 prepared by many hands,
 as we gathered in the most beautiful kitchen,
continuing our theme of 'together'.

There was time even for scientific experimentation, 
regarding the necessary evils of onion cutting.
 Is it best to cut them in the sink, under water?
 While holding a piece of bread in ones mouth?
Or, perhaps, a pen?
[The bread won, for its tear and saliva binding qualities...]

And then, there was time to eat,
with delight in the provision,
and delight in each other.

Then, as the divide between one year and the next neared, 
it was time to party
 We broke out the champagne,
 the streamers.
 We ran out to the porch with sparklers, in full celebration.

And then, we settled into 2013.
There was snow for snow cones,
as we gathered together in front of the fire once more
in order to play our favorite game.

After the sun rose, we packed our things and said good-bye to our cabin, with peace in our hearts and hugs all around, grateful;
your horizon, 2013, is looking good.

[Many thanks to Ben, Sara, and Nesha for sharing their photos!]

Saturday, January 12, 2013

Same Time, Same Place

This year my Baxter New Year's traditions got shifted just slightly to make room for a New Years Cabin Getaway.  [Stay Tuned.]

Though the timing was different, the Time was the same:  Games, movies, shopping, talking, tea.  The Time was so similar, so comfortable, so good, that my camera didn't get whipped out until what is perhaps our favorite tradition of all:
Dinner Preparation!

Since Andrea and I share a love of cooking, and since the last time I visited she had recently received this very exciting cookbook that I got very excited about,
guess what showed up under her tree for little old me?

And then, of course, we had to cook from it...We sat at the kitchen table, each with our respective copies, and paged through it, calling out page numbers as we found things that tempted our cooking sensibilities.
Our teamwork at it's finest, we then prepared oven baked fish and vegetable lo mein with ease, chatting away as we chopped and stirred and poured.
The result was delicious, the time was well spent, and the Time and the Place remain, no matter when the timing!