Saturday, January 28, 2012

It's all in the name

I'm not sure how this happened, but it happened all the same:

Somehow, over the course of the past two years, in two completely different friend groups having no communication with each other, my name morphed into: Lo.

Lo--while not being a typical nick-name for a person traditionally called 'Lauren'--has evolved over time to have many varieties. Lo-Lo was the first, and is shared between both groups, with credit going to both Ash and Aden.  Loristo is Heather's name of choice, with Kate following close behind in frequency of usage.

Each time my friends pull out these little names, my heart reminds me: Loved.  Each time, I am grateful.  Each time, however, I am also a bit taken by surprise, and have a little moment of disbelief in the longevity of their persistence in our relationship.

But, yesterday, when Kate and I had the following conversation, I thought: It's here to stay.

Here's what happened:

First, you need to know what happened on Thursday, when she came to her piano lesson.  She stood outside the door to my room while I finished up with Tobin, the student before her.  Tobin's little sister stood there with her, waiting too.  Because both of these little girls do not have 'quietly waiting' in their bag of tricks, they stood there knocking lightly, calling my name.  I told them we'd be a few more minutes, but I could hear them, whispering.  The whispers turned into Kate, calling in her sing-song way:

Lo-riiiiiiiii-sto!

And then I heard the little sister, calling out the same.

So, Friday:  Having a day off from school, Kate and Sarah were at home.  Heather had to teach, and Ash had to work, so I--having a few flexible hours--spent them with these two, for whom I have my own loving nick-names. While Sarita kept her little introverted self entertained, Kate-a-Late-a-La and I set up a nail salon at the kitchen table.
We lounged comfortably next to each other, amiably chatting in the ease of our long and familial relationship.  During our conversation, the piano lesson somehow came up, and I said: 

'Wasn't it cute how Tobin's little sister started calling me Loristo too?'

And Kate said: 'I know! I wanted to say "Hey little girl, that's my Loristo!", but I didn't.'

We smiled, and kept on with our work.  It was the briefest of moments, but it was a moment that said:

Love, gratitude, friendship here to stay?  

It's all in the name.

Monday, January 23, 2012

Remembrance, with love

As State College mourns the loss of its grandfather today,
I remember the life of my own:
Arthur Knyfd, Jr. 
3.17.1921-1.23.2009










With love.

[How I miss him...]

Bridesmaids!

Since this girl has decided to marry her man,
she, Emily and I made a kamikaze trip to the nearest bridal shoppe this past weekend, in order to get ourselves appropriately dressed.

Fitting it in between the other events in our snowy Saturday,
Emily and I fitted ourselves into a cubicle of a fitting room,

and a variety of dresses,
before settling on these lovelies.

Wedding fever, it's upon us!

Monday, January 16, 2012

HOL, the 2012 way

By now you know what's coming: eating, drinking, laughter, merriment, conversation, potentially a movie. HOL always has some generic properties, but the NYC species has its very own flavor, with a new year of innovations thrown in.  

This year we kicked Hash-Out-Life off with dinner at El Ay Si, 
located just down the street from home, 
with food so yummy I accused L & G of holding out on me:
Why, exactly, was this my first visit?

I was skeptical of their attempts to placate me, 
but eventually they appeased me with liquor...
[new favorite drink: whiskey with blackberries and orange....]

A weekend of firsts, Lisa and I sashayed over to her book club meeting at a classy restaurant in Hell's Kitchen on Saturday morning.  Walking into what appeared to be a modernly elegant place, we were told that parties of our size were to be seated in their 'back room'.

Though there is a picture, I'll keep this chaste, because:

  'Back room', we quickly learned, is lingo for: 'the shady place where we invite people of the night to club, under purview of less-than-wholesome wall murals'.  We also learned that--though there for brunch--we were to be treated to pounding club music under the glow of the minimal yet certainly glowing red lights.  Despite these bizarre factors, our discussion and our laughter were genuinely and--quite purely--delightful.

Afterward we hopped into a cab and went to find Geoff, who was playing some ping-pong with the book club husbands.
Lisa and I put our ping-pong prowess into action,
and the men stayed out of our way.
[Afraid of us, clearly...]

After we were through making our ping-pong HOL debut, we made our way home for tea and 'sofa surfing' (in Lisa-speak), before donning our pretties for our annual night on the town:
First, dinner at Blue Smoke, where brisket fell off our forks and into our tummies,
which we followed by descending into the bowels of the building for jazz at the Jazz Standard.

Tucked into my nook to nosh on the jazzing while nibbling my other new favorite drink
[oh yes, good evening, blood orange margarita...],
all while enjoying the company of such sweet and dear friends,
caused me, to put it as simply as possible,
to smile.
[With my pig face.]
[Yikes.]

[Certain others of us felt similarly about the dessert.]

Once under way, the trio of guitar, drums, and hammond organ caused our own organs to sing for joy, being just that amazing.  When their set was over, we smiled out of appreciation, and a slight sadness that our organs could sing no more.  But then, a truly special moment occurred:

The organ player's young grandson climbs on the bench.  He begins to fiddle, while the people in the room look at their bills, finish off their drinks, reminisce about what they have just witnessed.  The grandfather, an old man who has clearly earned the right to be as socially alternative as he darn well pleases, motions to the boy with a flick of his wrist and a shake of his head and says,


'Play!'


The boy is hesitant, unsure.  He fiddles a bit more.  


A few members of the audience notice that the boy is blind, at some kind of disadvantage, and they clap, to encourage.


The boy starts--bit by bit--to play, and bit by bit the audience turns their face to him.  They clap some more, they yell out small encouragements.  His playing is sturdy, good but standard.  They clap a bit more.  They are his family now, joining the old grandfather in his grandfatherly pride.


But gradually, before they even know what's happening, the boy's playing moves beyond, becomes, 


extraordinary.


All eyes are suddenly glowing, taking him in with wonder.  The clapping becomes more than encouragement, the collective warmth more than pride in a boy's accomplishments. 


We are in awe.


The boy, simply sweet, has given us a moment, 
and we belong to it, and to him.

He finishes, to wild applause.  We sit in stunned silence for a moment, until there is nothing left but to gather our bags, our scarves, to leave.


So, we do.

[Selah]

The next morning,

Cafe Henri beckoned us from down the street,
and we agreed that cafe au lait was inevitable,
along with, as if we hadn't eaten enough already, our standard brunch.

We dwelt over the table, soaking in our final meal together.
We extended the moment on our walk home with a stop at Sweetleaf , purveyors of warmth which a certain person that is me has dubbed:  'dang good coffee', while certain others have agreed, unanimously.

We arrived home fortified but freezing, and took some time to pray together, to reflect on what we'd been reflecting on all weekend: the gift of a long friendship, the things we have learned along the way, the blessing of community and the opportunities we have had to share in each other's journey, over many decadent meals and under glorious music.  We reminded each other that we are truly thankful, for the tears, the laughter, the prayers, and the love bursts; all the gifts of a gracious God who has shared His character with us,
and shown to us His heart.

[Selah]

We then drove to the Guggenheim with plans to see an about-to-close exhibit, but the line was long and the weather frigid.  Instead, we snuggled ourselves into a movie theater
and settled in to watch Meryl Streep be brilliant in a mediocre story line.

The credits rolled, and we hit the street, on our way to my bus, and to the brutal end of HOL.

Over for another year, January HOL, indeed.

Of Harrisburg

You might be wondering where and when this yumminess occurred, and I wish I had more pictures to set the scene.  After this was taken, however, I got so absorbed in the goodness of the company (and, of course, the food), I misplaced the camera and--well--that was that, until:

Harrisburg friends dear, we gathered as I made my way back home for brunch, the meeting of  new babies, and the catching-up on things of life, while whirling dervishes of children played princess and who knows what other host of things, and the men got in a bit of football.  

I left them with a heart full of gratitude for their continued friendship, mixed with sadness that these precious moments are few and far between, and confirmed in my prediction:
2012, indeed.

2012?

Historically speaking, the ringing in of a new year in my life involves my good friend Andrea and her men,
both cute
and cuter:


[Love those guys...]

As always,
there were games,
yummy treats,
and much hilarity.
Really.

There may also have been some pandemonium:



Maybe.

The rest of the weekend involved our other New Years traditions: 
after meal tea & cookies,
technology,
a wee bit of shopping, 
and
pork & sauerkraut dinner 
(this year with their good and lovely friends).

Though 2012 seems an impossible number, 
it arrived with all possible cheer.
I'll take it as a hint of what's to come: 2012 indeed.

Yup, the Star

You might remember that in recent history there was mention of a little itty-bitty being the star of every show, from here on out, forever and for always.

This Christmas did not prove this prophecy wrong; approach any photo album of any one of my family members, and you will find--at maximum--a mere three out of who-knows-how-many pics not centered around:
the sweetest, cutest, darlingest baby in the world.

We enjoyed teaching her many things this Christmas, 
including but not limited to:
how to properly stuff a stocking
[which she understood the importance of immediately],
how to deal with the Kooistra gift-bag tradition,
how to unwrap that really-quite-unnecessary-but-oh-so-fun-to-chew-on wrapping paper,
and how to say thank you when you have.

We also felt it was important for her to learn
how to claim what's rightfully hers,
 how to claim what's rightfully not,
how to de-ornament a Christmas tree,

and--just maybe--something else, which may or may not be:



Yup.  She's one of us alright.

When the night was over she got tucked into her cozy car and soon into her bed, but--since I live that life of luxury--my time with her was not at an end.

Later that week I joined my parents in their babysitting task, 
quality time that allowed this no-longer-so-bitty-but-quite-the-itty star to learn how to get the most out of Good Housekeeping,
that Grandpa sounds remarkably like her stuffed duck,
and that people really will sit and watch you play if you just:
remind them every once in awhile how happy you are to see them.

She has--without question--changed the history of this family for good, and she is--also without question--the sweetest star.