Welcome to My Introvert Day

My life of late has been insane, in all kinds of good ways.  Each day holds a variety of places to be and things to do and people to be with.  If you can relate, then you can probably easily imagine my surprise when I looked at my date book yesterday and realized that:

MY SATURDAY WAS COMPLETELY OPEN.

This was nothing short of miraculous.  I couldn't believe my good fortune.  There was nothing to do but label it "My Introvert Day" and warn my friends: 

My phone may or may not be on.  

I may or may not be available.

I woke up without an alarm.  I spent a few hours on my couch with coffee and God.  I made myself buttermilk pancakes with strawberries for lunch.  I ran a few errands that involved running into no one.  I did my taxes to the accompaniment of some good tunes that I picked myself.  I played a bit of piano.  

Then? It was time to delve into some hard core cooking.

I poured myself some wine, put on some robert plant & alison kraus, and proceeded to make the most ridiculously beautiful pot of new england clam chowder that I have ever laid eyes on, not to mention tasted.

[This is saying a lot, seeing as I have lived in new england, where new england clam chowder abounds.]

I ate it, while watching the food network.  (Sigh.)

I looked at the clock and realized:

I have a whole night stretching ahead of me.

Now, where is my book?

Oh What A Beautiful Morning

I have this lovely friend.

Her name is Emily.

There are exciting things happening in Emily's life:

1) She and her husband Aden are selling their home and heading out on a grand adventure.

2) She is giving a voice recital with the piano playing help of yours truly.

Yesterday those two very exciting things collided:

1) There were about a gazillion people scheduled to see her house, so she had to be out of it

and

2) We had to practice.

Hence, she and her faithful dog Buddy came over to my basement.  

We drank much coffee.

We worked diligently.

We took little breaks.

We shared the thoughts in our hearts.

We dwelt in the love of each other, and the ease of being together.

We decided:

What a beautiful way to spend a morning, 

and what a gift of a friendship made to last.

Re-connections, Realizations

This past Friday I toddled my way up the East Coast to Boston for a weekend full of reconnection and realizations.

In the order in which they came:

1)  The radio stations in State College stink.  (Oh River 105.9, why can't you be forever in my life?)

2) Time well spent in the past becomes time well spent in the future.

[Saturday morning found me at a brunch with these lovely ladies, my support system when I lived in Massachusetts and played the piano for their sweet church family.  My heart just about busted with love as I sat and talked with them, and gleaned from them what it is to be a woman walking bravely in the world.]

3) I am one blessed cookie.

[My friends Kathy and Gene brought me into their home when I was a fresh-faced college graduate, set me up in their basement with more than what I needed, fed me, counselled me, loved me, taught me how to live.]

[They have welcomed me into their home ever since I left it to travel the world, and have continued to pursue a relationship with me no matter where I've been.]

[And, they have significantly contributed to my wardrobe for occasions such as Christmas, birthdays, weddings-I-forget-to-pack-a-dress-for...]

4) Even when you forget to pack a dress, the wedding must go on.

[Went on it did.  Karen and Blair had what I consider to be the most beautiful & simply elegant wedding I have ever had the joy to be a part of.]

5) Karen is one of the most special people I know, and I want her in my life for always.

[It's not every day that you run into a bride who makes you feel like you're the main event...]

[...and whom everyone in the room speaks of as if she and the man she's chosen to marry make their life worth living.

{Love you Kar, and have loved being a part of your journey.  Thanks for including me in your important day.}] 

6) Even a mediocre breakfast can be fortifying, when combined with the fortification of family time.

[Though we took no pictures to document the hole in the wall we ate at, Dave & Kara met me for breakfast  on my way out of town. We'll use this classy pic as a stand-in:

We do love a good meal, we Kooistra women.

We also love each other and the boy who brought us together, and we reminded ourselves of it as we shared about our journeying through life.]

7) I have lived a charmed and full life, have had a wonderful weekend, and now it is good to be home!

That's one hot pot.

You may recall my adventures with a little thing called "hot pot" 

during my adventures in a little thing called "China".  

[If you don't: http://laurenkooistra.blogspot.com/2010/08/beijing-it-is-time-to-become-your.html]

This past week, my darling Yi-Ting decided it was time to re-enact the hot pot experience 

(minus the plush purple sofa, that is...) since she, Yu-Chen, and I are running out of time to live life together.

Somehow--though at times it seemed like we would never actually reach this point--our doctoral journey has neared an end.  The two of them have decided to leave me here while they go off and work on their dissertations elsewhere.

[Don't worry.  I have already given them my blessing.]

And so, we needed an evening to eat hot pot 

and to talk into the wee hours of the night.  

Now, in case you're wondering:

The phrase "eat hot pot" does not involve some kind of heroic chomping of an actual pot.

Here's how it works:

You take any kind of meat/vegetable/mushroom/strange-and-unrecognizable-to-my-American-eyes-item

and stick them into?

A pot that is 

a) hot

and 

b) full of hot broth

When the meat/vegetable/mushrooms/strange-items have cooked in the broth you dish them out.

You eat them.

You grin widely.

Then you do it all again.

And again and again....

until you're about to bust or the food runs out, 

whichever comes first.

Based on this picture, guess which came first?

Yes--we were about to bust.

But, not just with food.

With the assurance that our journey together here has been a worthwhile one, if for nothing else that it brought us to each other, and gave us the gift of nights like this.

Of baby and family and all over festivity

Guess which one of us is having a Kooistra baby--soon?

[Hint: It's not me.....]

This past Saturday we Kooistras gathered in NJ among family and friends to celebrate the coming of that baby girl that we have been anticipating,

and to celebrate Marisa, 

the keeper of said baby girl.

A family affair, I took charge of the menu

and put my peeps to work.

Kara was the overseer of the design committee: the adorable invitations were her handiwork, as were some of the very special table accessories.  

[A key responsibility was also the carrying of the overflowing punch bowl, to avoid an undesired floor display I think...]

The show couldn't have gone on, however, without the vision and coordination of Grandma Kathy, seen here welcoming her guests and trying not to cry.

Once those guests seemed sufficiently satiated with the abundance of food,

it was time for presents!!

Everyone present was determined that this baby girl has everything she needs when she decides it's time to arrive,

and that we would have a good time while preparing for her.

All Keith & Marisa had to do was show up,

and let us love them.

We do--indeed--love you guys,

and can't wait to love that baby girl in person!

Help us, Keep us, Carry us

Doesn't this snowy view look pristine? I stood outside of my door this morning and reflected on the beauty of the sky, the sun reflecting off the purity of the whiteness.  I reflected also on the small little fact that as of 7 o'clock last evening I wasn't entirely sure that I would ever see this view again--or anytime soon at least.

You see, yesterday afternoon I sat at my parent's kitchen table in NJ, saying things like "Well, if I leave by 3, I'll be home by 7...." as the rain sputtered gently onto the windows nearby.  It seemed like a perfectly reasonable plan, with no foreseeable drama.

No foreseeable drama, that is, until I was still in my car at 7, battling for my life.  Turns out that the rain falling sweetly in NJ was at the same time snow swirling ferociously in Pennsylvania.  Turns out that Route 80 was a hotbed of ice and a pathway of un-plow-ed-ness.  Turns out: I was traveling on a haven for cars more comfortable in ditches and for drivers who enjoy the adventure of spin-outs.

I'm sorry I have no pictures for you dear readers, but I was just a bit preoccupied.

It turns out that I am not of the type who say "Maybe I should get off this road, find a nice hotel to curl up in until the storm has passed".  It turns out that I am about as stubborn as they come.  My mentality is?

I do not give up, even when it's difficult.

Even when I'm about to vomit out of absolute terror.

And then--as is true in most of life--at a certain point, even if one wanted to give up, there is no turning back.  The exit ramps hold stranded cars and jack-knifed tractor trailers.  Moving out of the lane straight ahead of you becomes a moment of slidden defeat.  All you can do is go ahead.

Calling on the name of Jesus.   A LOT.

Now, I know that there is power in the name of Jesus.  I have watched that power at work in the invisible storms of life in amazing ways.  And I figure: If Jesus's power is available to me in what I cannot see, then you'd better believe He is with me in the midst of a snow squall that is all but blinding me.

And so: As I maneuvered my car up a hill through a littering of stalled and precariously placed vehicles, I said, out loud for all to hear:

Jesus! Help us, Keep us, Carry us.

And I didn't stop saying it for the next 2 hours.

I only paused for interjections of "Jesus, you are with me!"s 

and shouts of "Surround that truck with ANGELS!"

(By the way, if you were looking for angels last night, I apologize.  They had all been summoned to the middle of Pennsylvania by yours truly, and I don't take no for an answer.)

Now, I don't think God needed me to repeat this two-hour long litany.  More than anything, I just needed to remind myself that He was there, and that I was driving in His power, as His beloved child.  I needed to be reminded of that because--I am not ashamed to tell you--It. Was. Not. Fun.

Up until the moment I pulled into my driveway, I literally did not know if I was going to make it there.  And when I did get there? I turned the car off, and allowed myself to breathe.  Allowed my muscles to relax (aka: shake).  Called the people who had been checking in on me, to whom I had rudely replied "Can't talk! I'm hanging up! Pray!"

I got into my house, and stood in the middle of the floor in some kind of shock, thinking "Am I really here?"  I took a warm shower.  I climbed into my bed.

I laid there, staring at my curtains, thinking: Am I really seeing these?

And I could not believe that I was.

As I laid there and allowed it to all sink in, I realized something that I have been needing to realize for awhile now.  I realized that--sometimes--those invisible storms of life are terrifying.  Sometimes you don't know whether to get off the road or move out of your lane.  Sometimes all you can do is go ahead, with every muscle braced, your hands being bruised by your grip on the steering wheel, unable even to talk to the people who care.  BUT. You have been put in the driver's seat by a God who is with you at all times, through all things.  He is a God who holds power to help, power to keep, power to carry. He is a God who has equipped you with the wisdom of how to maneuver safely in the snow, between the wreckages around you. He is a God who will bring you safely home, where the view is pristine.

But most of all, He is a God who Is.  And--thanks be to God--I don't need to remind myself of that in order for it to be true.

Memorable Treasures

What do you do when your life is going crazy in Pennsylvania, but there is a bridal shower in New Jersey for a good old friend on the same day that your brother--also in New Jersey--is having his 30th birthday party ?

You go to New Jersey.

Hence, last Saturday morning
I jumped in my car for a reunion with the road.

More importantly, 

a reunion with Karen, 

[my Princeton-years roommate]

whom I rarely get--but love--to see.

I joined with a crowd of her family and friends, 

as we showered Karen with treasures 

[such as these pots]-- 

tokens of our love and well-wishes 

in this memorable season of her life, 

because of the treasure that she is to us.

Sadly, however, I could not stay long! 

Two hours up the New Jersey Turnpike awaited my family,

gathered together to celebrate

our Keith.

Now, our Keith has a certain obsession with a certain game.  And, since it was the 30th anniversary of his birth, it was decided by our matriarchal decision maker that this particular gathering should be particularly memorable.

Hence, a large portion of the friends and family present 

found themselves playing a long [long] round of:

Monopoly,

in what turned out to be a Monopoly themed 

[and certainly memorable] event.

For evidence, I give you:

The Boardwalk food.

[Appetizers: Bags of popcorn, soft pretzels, nachos & cheese.

Main Course: Sausage & Pepper sandwiches, chili dogs, french fries, onion rings.]

The table decorations.

The cake.

[Serving the ulterior motive of apologizing
for the many years of heart cakes that
this Valentine's Baby has been subjected to ...]

And then?

The boy himself.

I don't know who won the treasures in that [long] game I mentioned,

[The benefit to going to a bridal shower first and walking in late? 

You miss the choosing of the players!]

but there is nothing more rewarding than celebrating memorable events in the lives of the people who fill your heart with the treasure of themselves.

A weekend to remember;

memories to treasure.